I wrote romance before I had kids. I write a different kind of romance now, and it took me a while to notice exactly what shifted.
I stopped writing love as a rescue
Before kids, my heroines sometimes needed saving, and the love interest did the saving. Now I write women who already know how to survive; love isn’t what rescues them, it’s what finally gets to witness them. Watching my own kids learn to handle things without me changed what I believe love is for.
Stakes got smaller and heavier at the same time
I used to reach for the biggest possible stakes: kingdoms, prophecies, the end of the world. Motherhood taught me that the smallest stakes, a broken promise, a child left waiting, a trust quietly withdrawn, can hit harder than an apocalypse. I write more of those now.
I write exhaustion differently
My heroines get tired now, actually tired, the kind that makes you snap at the person you love most. That specific, unglamorous exhaustion wasn’t in my early books, because I hadn’t lived it yet.
The love interest has to be worth the time I don’t have
I have less free time than I did before kids, and so does every reader who is also a parent. If the love interest isn’t worth stealing an hour of sleep for, I rewrite him. Motherhood made me a harsher editor of my own romantic leads, in the best way.
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